More Than a Song

So, rock bands, bands in general breakup. its a common thing. For example, great bands like the Beatles who broke up in 1970. John Lennon and George personal relationship had deteriorated and Lennon was the only one who wanted Yoko Ono around. Before the band broke up, they recorded Let It Be, which was released in 1970, the album only proved to been a "has been". Or Nsync who became all of a sudden..out of sync. Love is more than song! Im kinda just comparing a band to a relationship. It could be between family members, with your girlfriend or boyfriend. You start of thinking this person is perfect for you, they are exciting, they are outgoing and fun. You have same interests, thats why they started the band, that's how you took interest in starting a relationship. Then all of a sudden, it gets to that "rocky rockstar reality" phase. Personalities clash, irresponsibilities unravel. You learn this band, this person is not perfect. Then there is selfishness. It's how you handle the anger if it will end in a break up or in harmony. The most loving thing you can do is to get angry. It leads to harmony. The wrong way, leads to break up. You got to express your anger to move into real love.
How to get harmony through conflict in relationships? There is always this "boulder of blame", defenses go up, arguing about the same thing & not getting to the issue. You need to get to the "root of the cause". 1. hurt 2. insecurity 3. frustration. You need to ask yourself..."Am i hurt?" "Do i feel insecure?" "Am i frustrated?"...Yes, I am hurt, I am insecure and i am frustrated because of what you did. This is the correct way to approach conflict in a relationship. So do you attack or get to the root of the cause?
Live without resentment. Holding resentment will only hurt yourself. Basically you're saying, "Im not going to get healed until he/she changes". Some of us are waiting for that person to change. Its like saying, that one particular person shoots you in the arm while your walking down the street, then asking specifically for that person to heal you! You forgive. It takes time to build trust. Holding resentment is only weighing you down.
Selfishness, it really hurts the relationship. Answer: Serve. It's all about serving the other person. What about my feelings? You will be changed 100%. You need to love not expecting anything from it. Will my relationship be standing after the storm? And there will always be storms. Well it all depends on your foundation. You need peace in your heart to make a relationship work. Love is an action. Love is a choice. Love is more than a song. Love is more than a feeling.


"4 Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, 5 does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, 6 does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
8 Love never fails; "- I Corinthians 13